When it comes to love and relationships, I often get the question, “Are we a good match?” Or, even better… “Is he or she THE ONE?”. The reality is, to answer those questions, it’s probably best to look inward and follow the truth of whatever your heart, your head and your gut are telling you.
However, that being said, consider astrology a tool to use in your couples’ toolbox; a mirror through which you can reflect on the potential dynamics of your relationship. Instead of asking yourself the questions above, I challenge you to be honest with yourself in answering just this one:
What are you seeking from a relationship?
Some people like a challenge. Some people like ease. Some like spontaneity while others prefer stability. Some people like to be adored while others like to do the adoring. Which are you?
For a truly in-depth understanding of a particular relationship, an astrologer would typically request the birthday, minute, year and location of the two people involved, and then would put together birth charts that plot all of the planetary alignments for each partner in the relationship and examine how they relate to one another. Because that’s impossible for me to do in this one column here today, ahead, I’ve written up an astrological shorthand that’s solely based on sun sign astrology (like the broad horoscopes you could have grown up seeing in a magazine or newspaper) to give you the general gist of how a particular relationship is likely to flow. There are six primary relationship dynamics based on the geometry between different signs in the zodiac wheel. Find your own and see if it resonates!
People who share the same sign in a relationship are very similar to those whose relationship is six signs apart. This is one of those instant-connection sorts of relationships. You feel this person is a kindred spirit. You’re likely to see many similar qualities in your partner that you find in yourself: those you admire and those you do not. It can be like looking a mirror, but occasionally seeing a reflection of your own faults through your partner’s eyes. For the most part, it should be an easy flow depending upon how self-aware you are. If, however, you’re less in touch with yourself and your own flaws, seeing them mirrored back to you can be alarming, but from which you can potentially experience the biggest growth.